self value and self worth

Ok I know its been a while but we bout to get right back on to it. Now I need every body to go to the book of color chapter purple Lets get it. Today im talking bout self value and self worth when it comes to the opposite sex now I know I aint no relationship expert but I am a doctor though but game recognize game. You ever get at somebody when you met them the vibe was right and all but you call too soon or make ya self too available and things don’t work out (its happened to everybody even Dr juice). This topic came about when my dear lil cuz came to me for advice he said that he met this girl at his school and they hit it off from the get go and so he thought he would he ask her to go to the movies with him she said yea. Now what he did to fuck everything up was that he made his self too available bringing his self value down.



He told me that he got her number on Wednesday and was calling her on Friday big mistake everybody knows about the two day rule but lemme be the first to say FUCK the two day rule. The problem with the two day rule is that even tho u wait 2 days it still makes you seem a lil desperate like you was counting down the days to call, shit you prolly had the number dialed in ya phone but was too scared to push talk sitting there like a damn fool debating on calling. Back to the story he said that she was busy and couldn’t do it, so for the next month and a half he would call her and ask to go to the movies and she would tell him no she was busy. The more he made his self available the less she wanted to see him and thought of him as a bug a boo. He made it seem like his highlight of the month would be taking her to the movies which is a big mistake.

What he should of done was got the number waited a while to call her and ask her to the movies. Its not like he wasn’t going to see her they went to school together if he would of asked her and then not said nothing about it to her for a while 9 times out of 10 she would of asked him about the movies. Then all he had to say was he has been busy as hell doing some other shit but when he get a free weekend he got her (right there that says that he got more important things to do then to take her to the movies). Bringing his self value up shifting the momentum his way.

He met a new girl and got her number similar situation arouse he wanted to take her to the movies (he still in high school too young to drive so all he can do is go to the movies if u wondering) I told him to eventually make plans with her to go and then to cancel them and say that something important came up and then when she asks to reschedule tell her he got a party or something to go to even if he doesn’t then the day after call her and tell her that he had the time of his life even if he was at home on punishment and make plans but don’t cancel them. He did that and now he said they have been on several dates

Now im not saying to be an ass hole but the less available you are in most cases plays to your benefit it puts the ball in your court you want the other person to wonder about you be intrigued to learn more about you. You don’t want to put everything out there the first time you talk because getting to know some one is the important part like when u meet someone the first 5 or so times you talk to them on the phone the convo’s are long as hell wit time they get shorter and shorter. You got to keep them interested in you people get bored too quick especially when it comes to somebody who wants to tell you their life story in one conversation. Over doing it can cause people to go and look else where so you have to know when to hold’em and when to fold’em don’t fuck up sumthin nice trying to over do it THOSE ARE THE DR‘S ORDERS..